Love is said to be an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired, this in other words means love cannot be said to be love except it has those two qualities. It has to be reciprocated, when you are in love with someone who does not love or pretends to love, you are in darkness because you are ultimately blind to face reality. There is no two way about it love is always obvious. It baffles me to see that a man and woman show love to each other like they do to a non living thing. It is only a non living thing that you will love and you don't care if it loves you back like a car. That been said it is becoming a general phenomenon in this part of the world. It is share stupidity to say love is blind it is not it is your stupidity that is blindfolding you. Wake up to reality and see for yourself if you are in a trap or on the right track.
My candid advise is that when you know you are not been loved back just back out and stop hoping that someday there will be changes, you have a choice and if you are already married you had better look for the key that open your partners heart.
I want and desire everything that makes a woman complete….i want that person that makes thing happen around me. When I met You, You make me fulfilled and happy, you make me smile n I find pleasure flaunting my teeth for you anytime, anywhere, anyday. When I think of you my heartbeat skips a bit and it go Jigijigi as in ……you know. Everybody around me wants to met you ,know you and I am glad they are feeling that way… coz I want and desire to spend my whole life with you. Who could it be if not you Olowo ori mi, oko mi, ale temi nkan ore mi, my All, my Soul……The one and only …. God of Abram ,God of Issac,God of Jacob, God of Oluwafolakemi …….OLORUN GBOGBO EMI ENIYAN patapata. I LOVE YOU LORD!!!!!
"Act as if it were impossible to fail. Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing. "What small potatoes we all are, compared with what we might be; despite past experiences, stepfamilies can walk with divine confidence through the struggles with past failures and mixed expectations in order to find hope for a future together.
Success has been defined to us as many things, wealth, power, fame, etc. However, success is not a “thing” it is a journey. With Your Road Map for Success, we don't really want to change. We just want to feel better for the moment. Prayer changes things, but it doesn't come easy for some. Sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us change our ways. Be humble when you correct people who oppose you. Maybe God will lead them to turn to him and learn the truth. Proverbs 20:30 (TEV), 2 Tim. 2:25 (CEV)
Let me tell you a story: sometimes ago there is a boy called Ajax. Ajax is a very intelligent boy whose intelligence is only to correct others and not see into his own mistakes. Ajax corrects and instructs his friends of what to do always only to discover at the end that the more he corrects his friends those ones went back home and make a change while he remains the same.
THE BIG STONES
One day, an old professor of the national School of administration (ENA-France) was asked to give a training-course on the effective economic planning of one's time to a group of about fifteen leaders of big companies from North - America. This course constituted one of 5 workshops of their day of training. So, the old Prof. only had one hour to spend on this subject.
Standing in front of this group of elite who was ready to note everything that the expert was going to teach, the old Prof. looked at them one by one, slowly, and then said to them: "We are going to make an experiment". From under the table which separated him from his pupils, the old Prof. took out an immense jar Mason of a gallon (glass jar of more than 4 litters) which he directly put in front of him. Then, he took out about a dozen pebbles roughly as big as tennis balls and placed them delicately, one by one, in the big jar. When the jar was filled up to the brim, and when it was impossible to add anything to it, he raised slowly his eyes towards the pupils, and asked them: "Is this jar full?" Everybody answered: "Yes". He waited for a few seconds and added: "Really?" Then, he bent again and took out from under the table a pot filled with little stones. With accuracy, he poured these little pebbles on the big stones, and then moved softly the jar.
The fragments of little pebbles went between the stones down to the bottom of the jar. The old Prof. raised his eyes again towards his audience and asked: "Is this jar full?” This time, his brilliant pupils began to understand the whole process. One of them answered: "Probably not!" "Well!" answered the old Prof. He bent again and this time, took out from under the table a bucket of sand. With attention, he poured the sand into the jar. The sand went to fill the spaces between the big stones and the little pebbles. Once again, he asked: "Is this jar full?” This time, without hesitation, and in a choir, the brilliant pupils answered: "No!” "Well!" answered the old Prof. And, as expected by the brilliant pupils, he took the jug of water which was on the table and filled the jar up to the brim. Then, the old Prof. raised his eyes towards his group and asked: "Which big truth does this experiment show to us?”.
Being no fool, the most audacious of the pupils, thinking about the topic of this course, answered: "It shows that even when one believes that our diary is completely filled, if one wants really wants it, one can add more meetings to it, more things to be made". The old Prof. answered. "It is not that".
"The big truth that this experiment shows to us is the following one: "If one does not put the big stones first in the jar, one will never be able to make all of them go in, then”. There was a profound silence, each becoming aware of the evidence of these comments. Then, the old Prof. told them: "Which are the big stones in your life?" "Your health, Your family, "Your friends, To make your dreams come true, Learning, To do what you enjoy, To relax, To fight for a cause, To take time for yourself, any other thing?" I added to the list your marriage and children. What it is necessary to remember is the importance to put one's BIG STONESin first in one's life, otherwise one encores the risks not succeed in one's life. If one gives priority to peccadilloes (the little pebbles, the sand), one will fill one's life with peccadilloes and one will have no more enough precious time to dedicate to the important elements of one's life.
Then do not forget to ask to yourself this question: "Which are the BIG STONES IN MY LIFE? Then, put them in, first” With a friendly gesture of the hand, the old professor greeted his audience and slowly left the room.What are the BIG STONES in your life? It can be summon if you belief and make your perspectives serves you right. It’s not what you see that matters but how you see what you see. It’s not what happens to you that counts, but how you handle what has happened to you and move on with your life.
1. People whose greatest desire is the success of the idea: Always bring around you people who will always bring your dreams and ideas alive; People who are totally committed to the success of your dreams and ideas.
2. People who can compound another person's thought: Learn to bring around you people that who can take somebody else's thought and play off of it and tweak it and make it better.
3. People who emotionally can handle the changes of conversation: The creative conversation is going to go left and right, and up and down. It's an emotional roller coaster, and you want someone who won't let their feelings get in the way of progress.
4. People who appreciate strengths in others where they are weak: These are people who can complement one another. For example, where you've got one person who's a focus thinker and another person who's a creative thinker, they will have to be able to appreciate the input of the other.
5. People who recognize their place of value at the table: Always keep around you people who know why they are part of your dream. If they don't, you will have a problem.
6. People who place what is best for them below what is best for the team: These people know to check their egos at the door. Subordinating your own agenda to what is best for everyone is always good.
7. People who can bring out the best thinking of those around them: When somebody comes up with a great thought, they can probe a little and say, "Come on, go a little bit deeper here. Talk to me a little bit more. Give me some more out of this."
8. People who possess maturity, experience and success in the issue being discussed: For me I want all the three. I don't want maturity without success, I don't want experience without success, and I certainly don't want success without either. The three are good and they are the key to unlock every door when it comes to success.
9. People who take ownership and responsibility for the decisions that are made: They have the ability to come to the table and, after there is a shared concept and idea or thought that evolves around it, they can take ownership of it.
10. People who can leave the table with a "we" attitude and not a "me" attitude: Teamwork is essential to accomplishing great things. You always want people who are willing and able to grasp this concept on your team.
Commit to getting these ten types of people around the table in a shared thinking meeting and watch the results!
Lastly, never dream of changing a person that is the worst thing that can ever happen to a man. You have to learn to allow people to make a decision for their own change. Accept and embrace people the way they are. With that you’ll help them to discover who they are and if they dream of becoming a leader themselves they’ll begin to work on themselves.
We must all know one thing that we cannot complete each other; we can only complement one another but when complement become a thing of irritations and avoiding each other then it’s no longer a complement but a compulsion by then it’s nothing else than witch craft. But if we can learn to embrace and celebrate one another even when we are not up to perfection then we can together Sense Peace, Bless Others, Receive Blessings and walking together in harmony, Feel Secure of one another without any bias mind if we truly love one another. Together we can Find God if we don’t lose hope; we can Experience Intimacy in His presence, Receive Guidance to leave right. We must be free of any worries or troubles that might likely great an ungodly thought towards another person. Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but never gets you anywhere. You and I must learn to break our self lose of it no matter what.
By doing this we great opportunities for others to excel and we have greater influence on them. Creating positive influence will not only be a catalyst to your own success, it will become the legacy you will leave behind. Remember reputation is what people think of us now that we are still alive; legacy is what they think of us long after we are far gone away. There are no born leaders, only learned leaders.
The only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but I cannot change you. You see, I am responsible to you but I am not responsible for you. Sometimes life can be full of pains and surprises. Life can be so painful and horrible to the point of knowing not who to trust and to rely on. Having a friend that fist and win with you today suddenly rose up tomorrow to pull you down. Who then can be trust when all things seem to stand against you?
Your love ones take cover because they can no longer hold on. People you show love suddenly turn their back on you. They laugh you when you pass by, they hide they face when they see you coming. Painful you count that to be – so do I, but don’t we all forget one thing? One thing that many do not see about us; neither will they ever see it; - The LOVE of HIM who had called us. Who really makes the life painful, the people who abandoned you or you who abandoned yourself?
Many of us forget that the best friend we can ever have is our self likewise the worst enemy we will ever have is our self. Either you like it or not no one will ever love you more than him or her self get that straight, just as you can not love another man more than yourself. Maybe you think all things are against you, I have a good bad news for you- for the fact that you are where you are today is a sure assurance that He have a better place for you somewhere you know nothing about.
The good news is that there is a better day coming and the bad news is there is always a process to a better day. As long as you’re not willing to go through the process for a better day that is coming you might likely not get to experience the better day so get yourself prepared because for every package that is coming your way there is always a process you’ll have to get through before you get it.
People are likely to say all manners of evil things about you but I tell you they are only helping you to fuel the things God is about doing in your life. One thing I want us to get straight here and that one thing is that -It doesn’t matter what people says about you it do matters what you say about others-.What people says of you is only an instruments in the hand of God to take you to a place of fulfillment in Him, what you say about others will either become your grave or your open door to the next level in Him. What you allow yourself to get entangle with is what determines what your end will be.
You don’t live a life full of complains and idle words and expect God to bless you, no! You’ve to learn to leave straight, talk straight and walk straight always. Many times many of us thinking that what we are going through moves God, no my friend it does not. God had already finish with you before He ever begins with you and He known what your end will be even when you have no single idea what it is. Tell me what else you and I need from God to be blessed. When He gives us Christ He gives us His best, when He gives us the Holy Spirit He gives us His all. Whether you are where you dream of been in life or not, one thing is sure and that one thing is the fulfillment of God’s purpose for your life. Look at yourself and tell me if there is any one better than you are – be sure now that there will be no better day if you cannot picture yourself now having a best moment of your life. What you see is what you’ll handle, what you believe is what you’ll automatically become.
You’re a great person, a great leader the whole world is waiting for to explode. Why did you want to kill yourself before your time? Why are you allowing the fate of others about you to pull you down from getting to your ultimate in life? If you cannot change your perspective about what people are saying about you then you might likely not make any change in your entire life.
Life is about change and change is about been able to lead and influence others effectively; which means for you to really gets to a place of leadership where God had placed you must first change your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs about yourself first and then others. Leadership is about change. If you need no change, you need not dreaming of been a leader. In times of change, people seek out more and better leaders. The best reformers the world has ever known are those who began with themselves. We must be the change that we envision. Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
You don’t think of changing a person first when you yourself have not changed yourself. You must allow every works of change to begin with you – charity begins at home -.
1. One person cannot change another person.
The only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but I cannot change you. You see, I am responsible to you but I am not responsible for you; and there is a world of difference between those two. I am responsible for teaching you good leadership, I am responsible for sharing things that can help add value to your life; but you are the only one who can take responsibility to change yourself.
2. Most people need to look at the way they look at change.
I’ve you heard people saying "I sure hope things will change." The only way things will change for me is when I change. It has nothing to do with hope. You can't just say, "Well, I just hope things will change around me," and expect results. The only way that things will change for me is when I change. The only way things can change for you is when you change. I have also heard this before, "I don't know why I'm this way." Well, you are the way you are because that is the way you want to be.
3. When you make the right personal changes, other things begin to turn out right.
So when people say, "I'd like things to turn out better for me, I'd like things to turn out right, I'd like things to turn out better in the organization, or in my family," I say to them, "Start by making personal changes."
1. When you change your thinking you change your beliefs.
2. When you change your beliefs you change your expectations.
3. When you change your expectations you change your attitude.
4. When you change your attitude you change your behavior.
5. When you change your behavior you change your performance.
6. When you change your performance, you change your life!
Are you a leader already and you think or belief you cannot or are not making any different in your leadership position; I have news for you and the news is – work more on yourself you can actually make the different you’ve been dreaming of-.
Some times leaders liked change and followers didn't. I had this idea that leaders were out on the edge and they had a machete and they were cutting a path through the jungles of life, and they were always out in the front leading change, and the followers were way back crossing their arms singing, "I Shall Not Be Moved. What I've learned is this--that leaders don't like change any more than followers unless it is their idea! When change does not occur in an organization, it's never a follower's problem because followers do what followers do --followers follow. When change does not occur in the organization, it's because some of the leaders in that organization didn't like the change. And why don't leaders like the changes? Because they're always asking, "What's this going to do to me? How's this going to affect my turf?" And they say to themselves, "This could affect my turf. This could hurt me."
Followers seldom stop change because they lack influence; leaders often stop change because they have influence. The potential for change in your organization increases with participation. What you want to do is involve as many people as you possibly can in the change process. In fact, successful people know how to get shared thinking in their arena. They not only have their thinking but they know how to bring people around and say, "What do you think about this?"
A great idea just doesn't become a great idea. A great idea is a compounding effect of a lot of good ideas; it's out of the getting a lot of good ideas on the table that you get a great idea. The right kind of collaboration will drastically improve the quality of the ideas being shared. So the value of understanding shared thinking is that the more good people you bring into a room and get around the table, the higher your odds of getting great ideas.
First I want to thank you for reading my stories you encourage me to keep going. Though I could make one of several excuses, the bottom-line was lethargy. With the advent of shorter days and longer nights in addition to the onset of the cold weather, my inclination to put pen to paper took off like a kite on a breezy day. It is my privilege and joy to find someone who cares to read my stories. Yet I allowed this pleasure to slip away as a result of the external circumstances that seeped into my psyche, thus causing lethargy to become my companion. Indeed “he who observes the wind will not sow, and he who regards the clouds will not reap¹.” But you, my friend, have affirmed the truth that “two are better than one… for if they fall, one will lift up his companion².”
No doubt dear friend we are all caught in the pull of the external from time to time but you see, that is why we have each other. “No man is an island” is not just a cliché. We do need each other for none of us can thrive in isolation. We need people around us – family, friends, acquaintances, peers and even adversaries. While some love and encourage us, others test our inner strength by challenging and withstanding us. You have given me the zeal to keep going through your smile and God fearing heart. Someone has even been forthright enough to challenge me to ‘get on with it!’ Whichever part you played, here is the fruit of it – ink on paper.Therefore, I say, ‘thank you.’
Depending on what part of the world you find yourself in, the Christmas season can be quite frenetic. Lights and decorations in homes, shops and streets; heavy traffic both of people and cars; shopping centres overflowing with the whole world and their cousins; jolly music putting you in the mood to spend; carollers wishing you a merry Christmas, and more. Even the animals are not left out. In Africa the goats start to sweat as they anticipate their fate while in the West it’s the turkeys who, having been fattened all year, finally lay down their lives for the peace and goodwill of many stomachs.
Nonetheless, beneath all the brightness and gaiety lie many a hungry heart
Hearts hungry for love
Some without families close by to spend the season with
Others with families they wish they did not have
Some without money to buy gifts
Others with gifts they do not want
Some without food
Others with food more than they can ever eat
Some with money but no one to spend it on
Others with little money and too many demanding a portion thereof
Some making themselves ill from all the stress and strain of preparing for the big day
Others too ill to concern themselves with all the razzmatazz
Some bring out the cans and start to beg
Others drop in coins as part of their annual dose of generosity
Whichever side of the street you’re on there is the cry for love
The giver, the receiver; the rich, the poor; the stuffed, the hungry; the whole, the broken; the strong, the weak; the laughing, the crying; the young, the old; and all in between; every heart is hungry for love
But I am Hungry for your Love
So, my friend, what are you going to do about it? Buy presents for everyone? Place coins in every can? Donate to every charity? Hardly. Yet even if you could, can material things satisfy the cry of the heart? Think about yourself. How long does the joy of a gift received last? Christians celebrate Christmas as evidence of God’s love i.e. God so loved the world that he gave his beloved son so that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life (John 3:16 The Bible). Indeed God allowed the Christ child to be born specifically to identify with the human race and eventually pay the penalty for that which no human religion or philosophy has the answer – sin.
And we are grateful for this. Still the yearning inside remains. That cry which expresses itself in diverse kinds of attitudes and behaviours. The inner cry that says ‘love me’. Many associate gifts as an expression of love. Although this idea has its merit, there is little doubt that gifts can be given with absolutely no love involved. Remember the famous ‘ulterior motive’?
What then are we to do about love? How can we impart the depth of our love to others? And how do we get the love we need for ourselves? Lawyers often quote a latin maxim – nemo dat quod non habet – to buttress the point that you cannot give what you do not have. By all means go out there and share in the true spirit of the season – the joy, generosity and peace that accompanied the birth of Christ, but most of all I wish you love. Love for yourself, in the way that is personal and uniquely comprehensible to you. Some say it is better to give than to receive. I am not sure of the veracity of that, for I love to receive gifts and know most people do too. But I do believe it is more blessed to give than to receive, for often when we give from the heart without pressure or constraint, we find joy for ourselves in the delight or fulfilment of the recipient.
So my friend, I wish you love. As you give to others not in a bid to get in return but from the overflow of your love-tank, may it be replenished with much more in return. I pray that your love-tank will continually be filled throughout this season and the year ahead. And as you are filled, the more you are able to overflow on to others; and as you share your love, you create room in your tank to receive more.
I wish you love.
Love in all its ramifications.
Love in ways meaningful to you.
Love of the Father, love of a friend, love of a family.
Every lady wants a man who has a dream and vision while a man needs a woman who will support him and stand beside him; but the truth is both men and women are seeking for a friend to marry. I once heard a musical group called Bonnie & Clyde say, in one of their songs, that they want a man like their daddy. This must be because their dad is a caring father and a loving husband. The same is also true for some men. The kind of woman you choose will either make you or mar you; so you need to be careful on how you choose.
Now when the Bible says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” One thingstands alone here “they shall be one flesh”. To be one flesh is to do all things together with no other person knowing about it. But this phrase many of us have ignored, so let us examine it.
The flesh is known to be the soft part of the body of a person or animal, which is between the skin and the bones, or the inner part of a fruit or vegetable. The skin is the visible part of the body but the flesh and the bones cannot be seen except the skin is cut open. When you cut the skin you get to the flesh, when you slice the flesh you get to the bones. The skin is known to be the natural outer layer which covers a person, animal, fruit, or any outer coverings; in human anatomy, the covering of the body's surface that both provides protection and receives sensory stimuli from the external environment.
The skin consists of three layers of tissue: the epidermis, an outermost layer that contains the primary protective structure, the stratum corneum; the dermis, a fibrous layer that supports and strengthens the epidermis; and the subcutis, a subcutaneous layer of fat beneath the dermis that supplies nutrients to the other two layers and that cushions and insulates the body.
The epidermis is made up of living and nonliving layers. Its innermost layers, the basal and spinous layers, are alive, and they produce cells, called keratinocytes, that form the dead outer layer, the stratum corneum, also called the horny layer. Keratinocytes contain the tough, insoluble group of proteins known as keratins that also make up hair and nails. The horny layer forms as keratinocytes, which become thin, hard and dehydrated, and migrate to the surface of the epidermis.
The basal layer also contains melanocytes—i.e., cells that produce the pigment melanin, which imparts colour to the skin and also protects it from the effects of ultraviolet radiation. Other cells found in the epidermis include Langerhans cells, which play a role in the body's immune defenses, and Merkel cells, which are involved in sensory reception. Structures such as hair follicles, nails, and sweat and sebaceous (oil producing) glands are appendages that develop from the epidermis and extend into the dermis.
The dermis takes up the greater part of the human skin. It consists primarily of connective tissue through which an elaborate network of sensory nerves and blood vessels thread. The major component of dermal connective tissue is the extra cellular fibrous protein collagen, which provides strength to the skin and resists deformation and tearing under stress. Fibers of collagen are organized loosely in the papillary layer of the dermis, which is adjacent to the epidermis. In the reticular layer, beneath the papillary layer, the collagen fibres are denser and more branched.
Another fibrous protein, elastin, which is more flexible than collagen, is found in the dermis. Fibres of elastin help the skin return to its original form after it has been stretched. Elastin fibres in the papillary layer also help to anchor the epidermis to the dermis. Surrounding these fibrous bundles is an extracellular gellike matrix called ground substance, which consists primarily of water, ions, and complex carbohydrates such as glycosaminoglycans that are often attached to proteins –proteoglycans-. Ground substance helps to hold the cells of the tissue together and allows oxygen and nutrients to diffuse through the tissue to cells. Three types of cells - fibrocytes, histiocytes, and mastocytes- are scattered throughout the dermis. Fibrocytes synthesize collagen, elastin, and ground substance. Histiocytes are a type of macrophage i.e., cells that dispose of cellular debris and invading microorganisms by engulfing and destroying them. Mastocytes, or mast cells, are located near blood vessels; they release substances that elicit such responses as fever, edema, and pain.
The subcutaneous fat layer consists chiefly of fat cells –lipocytes- arranged into collagen-bound lobules. This fat serves as a nutritional storage depot for the entire body, and it cushions the skin and insulates the body against temperature extremes. While the bone is known to be any of the hard parts inside a human or animal that makes up its frame, bone is a rigid body tissue consisting of cells embedded in an abundant, hard intercellular material. The two principal components of this material, collagen and calcium phosphate, distinguish bone from such other hard tissues as chitin, enamel, and shell.
The functions of bone include
1.Structural support for the mechanical action of soft tissues, such as contraction of muscles, expansion of lungs;
2.Protection of soft parts, as by the brain case;
3.Provision of a protective site for specialized tissues such as the blood-forming system --bone marrow-; and
4.A mineral reservoir or sink, whereby endocrine systems regulate the level of calcium and phosphate in the circulating body fluids.
When Adam first sees Eve, the very first thing he said is “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.” Immediately he set his eyes on her, he knewthat this was the only person tosupport and strengthen him through the journey oflife. He therefore proceeded to name her “…Woman because she was taken out of Man.” Although there was no other human living then, Adam said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Men are not to remain in their home. Once they get married, they have nothing to themselves again in that family except the name of the family, which they take with them as a way of extending the family values and creating standards for the coming generations of that family.
He then went on to say “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” I believe the main reason they were not ashamed is because both of them became one skin; covering each other’s nakedness, so instead of seeing themselves naked, they see each other as covered.
Now two things make them not to be ashamed of one another,
1.The man, who is the head, had chosen to cut himself off from his parents and instead be a man.
He had also chosen to cleave to his wife, which gives the wife a greater assurance that nothing will come between her and the man of her dreams
I remember talking to a lady about marriage, who expected me to tell her that God said she is my wife; but I disappointed her. I instead told her I hadn’t heard anything from God, but that I really liked her and I would want to pursue the option of marriage. We men need to stop lying and say what’s on our minds. I believe lack of responsibility is a major reason why we lie against God in the area of choosing a future partner; it ensures someone to blame when trials and hard times come. Please be yourself!
The issue of love is not about I love you, you love me. No. Love is about me being willing to die for you, even when all things seem to turn against you. It’s so disappointing to see marriage losing value in our society today. It is heartbreaking to see a young girl of eighteen years, incapable of feeding her very self, already a mother. It’s like a child giving birth to a child. This is a shame! I have come to realize however, that marriages are failing because of our conception of what love is. Love expresses you and expression in architecture is known to be the communication of quality and meaning.
The functions and techniques of building are interpreted and transformed by expression into art; just as sounds are made into music and words into literature. The nature of expression varies with the character of culture in different places and times, forming distinct modes or languages of expression that are called styles. Your manner of expression must be interpretable, which you don’t achieve by just saying it; you must also feel it, as well as be passionate about it. Now the passion you have towards that person is what is generally interpreted to be value. And of course if you are passionate about someone, you will definitely value the person.
We must not forget to remind ourselves that love is a choice and not by force. Any love that is not active power controlled by will is nothing but irrational; and love is not irrational. Love is recognizing a unique value in someone and being willing to place the highest value of all on that person without counting the cost. Love is the simplest word in the world and yet complex to understand. Love was first mentioned in the Bible when Isaac said, “…make me savory food, such as I love, and bring it to me, that I may eat. That my soul may bless thee before I die.” And it was mentioned by God, “as many as I love, I reprove and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.”
If we look closely to these twoscriptures, we will see that both Isaac and God werepassionate about their love towards the person. So also ours must be towards the person we profess to love. Songs of Solomon gives much account on the power of love I recommend you read it and tell it to anyone you love and care for.
Gary Smalley and John Trent once said that:
Affirming words: Gives hope and encouragement to the listener.
A Meaningful touch: An embrace or a hand on a shoulder communicating care.
Expression of high value: A statement on the value that person adds to everyone.
Vision of a special future: Provides word pictures that communicate potential.
Application of genuine commitment: Do everything in your power to see that blessing comes to pass.
Until we know all these and are able to implement them effectively, we might likely not get anywhere in our love life, either before or after marriage.
I know you will be thinking I will tell you to try and know one powerful man or woman somewhere so that they can help you. Well, sorry to disappoint you. No man, I mean no man or woman can help you in life unless God choose to use them to help you. The best person and the only person you need to know in life is God. I enjoy a scripture that says; they that know the Lord their God shall be strong and do exploit. The key word here is knowing the Lord their God, so did you know God?
Forget the fact that many people are wearing nice clothes, fancy shoes and carrying expensive bags. Many of them buy in credit in order to leave up to the society demands, which some borrow because they want to feel belong; very few can buy and not feel a hole in their account.
In life, three aspect of knowing is very important. Know God, Know your work and Know books, I mean read books.
1.Know God
When you know God, you know all things. Knowing God is not about reading bible or prayer, knowing God is about you been fully convinced of what God is able and willing to do in you and through you.
I will never forget the two major events in my life in early 2000. The first one was in 2001, my landlord gave me a quite notice and when I was unable to get another house on time, he came and started digging grave at the entrance of my room. I feel bad and I was forced to move out of the house to a friends’ house. Out of annoyance, I said to the man, you will be the one to be buried in this grave not me. One day, I was dressing for church when the Holy Spirit said to me, go and apologize to your landlord. I was angry and said no; I will not. Then the Holy Spirit said to me, if you think you know better than I do, then don’t; but if you believe that I know more than you do, then you will obey my instruction. As far as I was concern, it is NO.
On my way to church that Sunday morning, I saw the man sitting in front of his house and somehow, I went to him and apologized, but rather than accepting my apology, the man drove me away, calling me all manners of name; then the Lord said to me, this is the last time you will ever see this man. Shortly after I have gone, the man entered his house, and he never come out again. Two days after, he dead.
They that know the Lord their God
The second event was in my former church. I love pastor so much; and the construction of the new auditorium, I was up and down helping to see things through. While supporting the church, I discovered that, the man in charge of the church real estate and the supervising of the church project was stealing money from the church and it got so bad that two of the major contractor working on the project had to engage themselves in physical combat all because of money. Meanwhile, four months before then, this same man in charge of the church project had collected the balance of a project I did for one of the member without informing me and when I took the case to the church counsel, they collected all the original detailed documents pertaining to the project with the promise to look into it the matter, but instead, the destroy all the evidence and told me to let God fight for me, I should let go.
I let go, but I never let God. So, I took the matter into my own hand. The senior pastor was angry, very angry, and at the point of anger, he placed a curse on me; on that night, I saw a black eagle entering my house, to press my troth to death, and I fought with the eagle for more than five hours. By the time I open my eyes, there was marks all over my body; and while I was there in my room trying to gain my strength and pray in the Lord, a friend of mine Emeka Kade sent me a text message all the way from Ibadan, reversing all wicked pronunciation against my life. Two days after, a young pastor by the name Rev. King Judah Y. El-Salem landed in my place all the way from Jos just to reverse the pronunciation. As if that was not enough, when I was about to get into ministry fully, God used Rev. Sam Adeyemi of Daystar Christian Centre to put a permanent stop to this evil pronunciation.
These two events are just two out of so many. I will never forget a Redeemed Christian Church of God’s pastor that owned me and my sister was dying in the hospital. Of course, my sister later died, and out of serious annoyance, I went to him to ask for my money on a Sunday morning. Right there, I said to him, unless if I have ever plan evil against any one, or do you evil; whether you pay me my money or not, come next month, your things will be thrown out of this place because you are not glorying God. Exactly that period, they sent them packing and that was the last time I ever hear of them.
When you know God, your word becomes an authority that heaven must back up; and your protection becomes Gods’ duty, because you are the apple of His eye. If have not known God, I would have been a dead man by now; because death was closer then very close. Assuming I know only my pastor alone, I will not be alive today to meet wonderful person as you through this book. When God said He will fight your battle and you will hold your peace, I tell you He means just that.
2.Know your work
If you don’t know what you are doing and know it well, nobody will patronize you. Every successful man and woman on earth today knows their onions very well. They have detailed information about their work and they know their very, very well. In the book of Proverbs, the scripture says; look at a man, who is diligent in his work, he will not stand before men and women of low statures, but he will stand before kings, rulers, and the world’s decision makers. So, how much of what you do did you know?
When, hand graphics was out of fashion and people are going into computer graphics, I went to the market buy a computer and look up myself in my room for three straight week, twenty four hours a day, seven day a week. By the time the three weeks was over, I got a job at Trump marketing Service Limited as Creative person, after spending months there, I moved to Arena Multimedia, APTECH Computer where I worked as the Studio Director and Facilitator. From there, I moved to BrandCom as Creative Director where I worked on so many brands and packaged so many management training programmes for the training arms of the firm, Marion Communications.
Getting a job was never a difficult thing for me and even when I was away for close to a years, two weeks after I returned back to Lagos, I worked FANICE bill board and shortly after I finished that, I worked on Oando, before I joined the Enterprise Development Service of Lagos Business School, Pan-African University as a freelance creative consultant. Few months after I joined them, I became the Creative Consultant to Pan-AfricanUniversity and at the same time, a facilitator at the School of Media and Communication of Pan-African University.
Nothing can stop you in life when you know your job very well. So stop moving around like someone that just lost something valuable, sit down and develop yourself. There are so many opportunities for you out there, but you can only benefit from them when you know what you are meant to do.
3.Know books, I mean read books.
My wife can truth me in many things, but she will and she can never truth me when it comes to taking money to buy books. Until recent, I preferred to buy books than to buy food in the house. Even Paul in his epistle to Timothy said; study to show yourself approved in all matter, a working man who can never be ashamed of fact because of his knowledge, one that can with all boldness state the fact as it is and when finding out, it will be just as he said it.
Reading bible alone cannot deliver to you the knowledge and the skill you need to be a computer engineer. You have to read books, journals, articles and carry out researches to be verse in any areas of life you have chosen to explore in life.
Buy books and read books. Books are your friend not your enemy. As a matter of fact, any friends that spend more than forty five minutes to one hour with you in your house or office are not your friend. The hours you will be spending chatting, you can invest it in reading. In my office, you hardly find me chatting with people. If there is no work to do, I look for information on the internet and once am done with that, I play a little with the members of staff and head home. It is very important that you read books.
Sam O. Adeoye is the Senior Pastor of GoldenCity Assembly. A church with a Vision to Breed the Next Generation Leaders, & a Mission to Identify, Train, & Release a New Class of Leaders for the Future.
He is a Brand Consultant by profession; with years of experience in Media and Advertising. As a professional, he had consulted for some agencies both within and outside Nigeria and he had writing over sixty articles on Management, Leadership and Team Building.
He is a Guest Facilitator at the School of Media and Communication of Pan-African University, Lagos Business School. An executive member of Les & Leslie Parrott Marriage Mentor Network USA, Full Gospel Business Men Fellowship, and member of Managing Business for Christ; with multiply award / recognition to his works, which includes: Management Reading Club of British Council Nigeria, BBC Radio London, Research recognition by the Consulate General of the United State of America to mention few.
He has the God-given mandate to teach scriptural Business / Leadership Principles. He is much sought after as a speaker in churches, seminars and conferences. He is married to Joy, who pastors with him.
