The only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but I cannot change you. You see, I am responsible to you but I am not responsible for you. Sometimes life can be full of pains and surprises. Life can be so painful and horrible to the point of knowing not who to trust and to rely on. Having a friend that fist and win with you today suddenly rose up tomorrow to pull you down. Who then can be trust when all things seem to stand against you?
Your love ones take cover because they can no longer hold on. People you show love suddenly turn their back on you. They laugh you when you pass by, they hide they face when they see you coming. Painful you count that to be – so do I, but don’t we all forget one thing? One thing that many do not see about us; neither will they ever see it; - The LOVE of HIM who had called us. Who really makes the life painful, the people who abandoned you or you who abandoned yourself?
Many of us forget that the best friend we can ever have is our self likewise the worst enemy we will ever have is our self. Either you like it or not no one will ever love you more than him or her self get that straight, just as you can not love another man more than yourself. Maybe you think all things are against you, I have a good bad news for you- for the fact that you are where you are today is a sure assurance that He have a better place for you somewhere you know nothing about.
The good news is that there is a better day coming and the bad news is there is always a process to a better day. As long as you’re not willing to go through the process for a better day that is coming you might likely not get to experience the better day so get yourself prepared because for every package that is coming your way there is always a process you’ll have to get through before you get it.
People are likely to say all manners of evil things about you but I tell you they are only helping you to fuel the things God is about doing in your life. One thing I want us to get straight here and that one thing is that -It doesn’t matter what people says about you it do matters what you say about others-.What people says of you is only an instruments in the hand of God to take you to a place of fulfillment in Him, what you say about others will either become your grave or your open door to the next level in Him. What you allow yourself to get entangle with is what determines what your end will be.
You don’t live a life full of complains and idle words and expect God to bless you, no! You’ve to learn to leave straight, talk straight and walk straight always. Many times many of us thinking that what we are going through moves God, no my friend it does not. God had already finish with you before He ever begins with you and He known what your end will be even when you have no single idea what it is. Tell me what else you and I need from God to be blessed. When He gives us Christ He gives us His best, when He gives us the Holy Spirit He gives us His all. Whether you are where you dream of been in life or not, one thing is sure and that one thing is the fulfillment of God’s purpose for your life. Look at yourself and tell me if there is any one better than you are – be sure now that there will be no better day if you cannot picture yourself now having a best moment of your life. What you see is what you’ll handle, what you believe is what you’ll automatically become.
You’re a great person, a great leader the whole world is waiting for to explode. Why did you want to kill yourself before your time? Why are you allowing the fate of others about you to pull you down from getting to your ultimate in life? If you cannot change your perspective about what people are saying about you then you might likely not make any change in your entire life.
Life is about change and change is about been able to lead and influence others effectively; which means for you to really gets to a place of leadership where God had placed you must first change your thoughts, attitudes and beliefs about yourself first and then others. Leadership is about change. If you need no change, you need not dreaming of been a leader. In times of change, people seek out more and better leaders. The best reformers the world has ever known are those who began with themselves. We must be the change that we envision. Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
You don’t think of changing a person first when you yourself have not changed yourself. You must allow every works of change to begin with you – charity begins at home -.
1. One person cannot change another person.
The only person who can change himself or herself is himself or herself. You can change yourself, but I cannot change you. You see, I am responsible to you but I am not responsible for you; and there is a world of difference between those two. I am responsible for teaching you good leadership, I am responsible for sharing things that can help add value to your life; but you are the only one who can take responsibility to change yourself.
2. Most people need to look at the way they look at change.
I’ve you heard people saying "I sure hope things will change." The only way things will change for me is when I change. It has nothing to do with hope. You can't just say, "Well, I just hope things will change around me," and expect results. The only way that things will change for me is when I change. The only way things can change for you is when you change. I have also heard this before, "I don't know why I'm this way." Well, you are the way you are because that is the way you want to be.
3. When you make the right personal changes, other things begin to turn out right.
So when people say, "I'd like things to turn out better for me, I'd like things to turn out right, I'd like things to turn out better in the organization, or in my family," I say to them, "Start by making personal changes."
1. When you change your thinking you change your beliefs.
2. When you change your beliefs you change your expectations.
3. When you change your expectations you change your attitude.
4. When you change your attitude you change your behavior.
5. When you change your behavior you change your performance.
6. When you change your performance, you change your life!
Are you a leader already and you think or belief you cannot or are not making any different in your leadership position; I have news for you and the news is – work more on yourself you can actually make the different you’ve been dreaming of-.
Some times leaders liked change and followers didn't. I had this idea that leaders were out on the edge and they had a machete and they were cutting a path through the jungles of life, and they were always out in the front leading change, and the followers were way back crossing their arms singing, "I Shall Not Be Moved. What I've learned is this--that leaders don't like change any more than followers unless it is their idea! When change does not occur in an organization, it's never a follower's problem because followers do what followers do --followers follow. When change does not occur in the organization, it's because some of the leaders in that organization didn't like the change. And why don't leaders like the changes? Because they're always asking, "What's this going to do to me? How's this going to affect my turf?" And they say to themselves, "This could affect my turf. This could hurt me."
Followers seldom stop change because they lack influence; leaders often stop change because they have influence. The potential for change in your organization increases with participation. What you want to do is involve as many people as you possibly can in the change process. In fact, successful people know how to get shared thinking in their arena. They not only have their thinking but they know how to bring people around and say, "What do you think about this?"
A great idea just doesn't become a great idea. A great idea is a compounding effect of a lot of good ideas; it's out of the getting a lot of good ideas on the table that you get a great idea. The right kind of collaboration will drastically improve the quality of the ideas being shared. So the value of understanding shared thinking is that the more good people you bring into a room and get around the table, the higher your odds of getting great ideas.
